Perhaps you are young, otherwise you came out of the closet at a later age and you're simply new to the Lesbian Community. You may be a family member of a lesbian or perhaps ally. Like any crowd, the lesbian community includes a shared set of terms that they can use to describe their identities, roles, behaviors, plus more. Lesbians, like any most people are within their group a varied and diverse group. When first understading about lesbian subculture, especially if you are a lesbian, the amount of information to master can be overwhelming. This can be a short list of terms which can be particular to the lesbian community. There are several more terms concerning lesbians as well as the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community most importantly.


Before defining terms in relation to lesbians, the term lesbian needs to be defined. A lesbian is really a homosexual woman, a lady who loves which is sexually attracted to women. A lesbian is not a woman who dates women before right guy occurs, or a woman that is sexually attracted to women if there isn't any men around.

The above examples of women would fall under the definition of bisexual, though they would not describe all bisexuals at all.


1) Baby Dyke- A lesbian new to lesbianism, who is often immature.

2) Butch- a lesbian that has masculine appearance and manners who often identifies with stereotypically masculine activities.

3) Drag King- A woman dresses like a man often inside a performance. While drag kings may be straight, drag shows with drag queens and kings (men dressed as women) are popular inside the gay and lesbian community.

4) Dyke- Another word for lesbian. Sometimes a derogative term. But in recent times lesbians have reclaimed this word and employ it as a term of strength and power. This is a term only people in the in group (LGBT community) should use.

5) Femme- A lesbian that has feminine appearance and manners and who identifies with stereotypical feminine activities.

6) Gold Star or Star Lesbian- A lesbian who may never have been with a man. This is the rarity because many lesbians have been with men previously mainly because they didn't know we were holding lesbian or they were afraid to be released because of a homophobic society.

7) Lip gloss Lesbian- A lipstick lesbian is similar to a femme lesbian but she is even more feminine. She may wear make-up and dresses. Some say that lip stick lesbians are simply attracted to other lipstick lesbians, while other sources don't support that.

8) MTF- is often a male who has transitioned in a woman. Also called a trans woman, or even a woman. While many transgender males who transition into women are certainly not lesbians many are. There is heated debate whether or not these individuals should be contained in the lesbian community.

9) Sapphic- Of or linked to the Poet Sappho. In the 7th Century B.C.E. Sappho was obviously a lyrical Poet from the Island of Lesbos. Her poems had themes of female homosexuality. The phrase lesbian derives from the word Lesbos.


10) Soft Butch- A gentle butch like a butch has some masculine characteristics specifically in dressing or manner, but may be slightly more androgynous or perhaps feminine on the inside. Chap stick lesbian is another term for a soft butch lesbian.

Learning the common language and terms can be very helpful if you are not used to a group or community. Otherwise, you could feel left out, when a sense of belonging is exactly what you really need. These are just some of the myriad terms someone just coming into the lesbian scene or out of the closet might love to know. It's a good start, but there are lots of more exciting, infuriating, and enlightening terms to master yet.